Rainy days and Mondays

Can't say they've ever got me down.  On the contrary, I love Mondays (mostly because unless there's an issue, I am off and I get to sleep in.  Seriously, my girls don't even expect me to be awake in the hour they take to get ready for school on Mondays.  Tuesday I may be a little more awake and human but not on Monday.) And Rainy days are always awesome.

I think it's something about the smell of a good rain.  It's like renewal.  Everything is washed clean.  As Martha Stewart says, "It's a good thing."

Seriously though, have you ever just stood at your door and watched it rain then taken a big deep breath (okay maybe I don't take a deep breath, I have asthma and it doesn't like the spring like weather)  IT's a metallic kind of smell, but I like it so much.  If I could bottle it into a perfume and a fabric softener and a air freshener I so would.  And Don't tell me that they make Rain Fresh as a scent because I have smelled those.  They smell nothing like a good clean Spring rain.

So my mom wants me to start looking for another job.  She says that I am slowly killing myself.  My bones can't take it and I am probably doing more damage to myself in the long run by staying.  She didn't get far though.  I pointed out that in the past year (which honestly, I didn't even realize it's been almost a full year until the other day when Amber and I were talking about it) I have lost almost fifty or so pounds, my happiness is through the roof because I get to see something besides my four walls everyday, and I have money that I didn't have to ask anyone for.  I no longer want to take long walks into traffic because my serotonin levels are just amazing to the point where even my doctor noticed the last time I saw her.  She said, and I quote, "In the past three years that I've known you, I have never seen you smile as much as you have in the last few months." Even my kids are happy.  Mommy doesn't get to spend as much time as she wants to with them so the time she does spent is made extra special and memorable.  So no, mom, I'll be keeping my job so long as my job wants me.

I fixed my dryer today.  Donald showed me how and told me where to order the part and took pictures so I'd know how to reconnect things but I put that sumbish on all by myself today and it works!! I have a working dryer again!

Rainy days and Monday always get me happy.

Plus, tonight is walking Dead night with my Patty and Joe!!! I get to go over and watch a show that I didn't want to watch but they talked me into watching and then hooked me on watching and I get to go be with them!  Yay!  Love my P and J.

So you may or may not have noticed that with each blog I now take a webcam picture.  Don't worry they WILL get better, I just ordered one that is supposedly 50 MP but I have a feeling that it's really 5.0  It's whatever, it'll still be a better picture.  I think I will keep up the picture thing because sometimes, when I'm reading someone's blog (yes I do follow other peoples blogs) I sometimes wonder what they look like or for the ones that I read daily, I wonder what they look like that day.  You know they can be describing that that they look and feel like crap and I wonder, do they really?  So yeah.  I think when I blog from now on, I'm going to include a picture.

Valentines and Easter are dangerous holidays.  Food Lion had Dove Chocolates on sale buy one get one free.  so of course i got two bags.  And Ice Cream.  And M&m's.  I've been sitting here snacking on Dove Chocolates since last night.  I think I am going to go make myself a milkshake.

I so Love Mondays!

Alight luvs, Stay Frosty.  I may or may not blog later tonight.  I may just let this be todays blog and wait until tomorrow to come back.

Stay Frosty!

So, a little bit of pissed off I guess...

I grew up with a teacher for a mother.  I've seen every trick and scheme that parents use to get their kids to do well in school.  If seen children work hard and get sneakers or a game or some treat.  And to be honest, even as a kid I thought it to be a disgusting parenting practice.

Why would you pay your children to learn??  Should the fact that they will grow up not to be an ignorant dumbass be reward enough?? If you pay your kids to learn they are only learning to get something and that something is not the satisfaction that they have learned something.

My ex has for years been paying my kids to learn and no matter how many times I ask him not to do it, he insists that they need an incentive to get good grades.

Here's an incentive:  They get good grades, they get into a good college and they might eventually get a job that will let them be independent adults and not depending on Mommy and Daddy for everything because they didn't have someone paying them every time they did well.

But no matter how many times I get mad, every quarter they get the report card, they get $5-10 for every A and $2-5 for every B.  Olivia came home with $10 this weekend while Kayla came home with $5.

I don't want my kids to think that the only reason they need to pay attention and do well in school is because Daddy is going to give them money.  It's like when they were little.  I gave then quarters for losing teeth.  Their Dad gave them five dollars per tooth. I took them to the dentist to get them to learn proper dental hygiene but no they wanted that green so what I got was kids trying string to a tooth and the other end to a doorknob or a (god help me but  am not lying) bicycle.  They tried anything and everything to pull their teeth out so that they could show them to Daddy and get the money.

My choice of word then: "Stop paying my children to rip teeth out of their heads!!!" his response? "I'm not! The tooth fairy is!"

If the tooth fairy were real I'm pretty sure she would have knocked him upside his head for that.

So now, I say "Stop paying my children to learn!"  He says, "I'm not, I'm giving them an incentive to keep it up!"

No, Randy you are not.  You are paying them to learn.  You are paying them to do their homework.  YOu are paying them to better themselves.  They need to want to better themselves because it will make them better people!

Ugh....

Also he has been updating my mother on his plans for my (okay I really should say our) kids.and not me again.  I really hate it when he does that.  I just found out via my mom that he is taking them with him to Oklahoma this summer.

JUst once I'd really like to know what's going on with my kids before my mom knows.  I'm just saying.

I have nothing real to bitch about.  Just the ex.  He hasn't pissed me off in a good long time because he really is a good guy most times.  HE was a shit husband and can sometimes be a sub par human being but he's very rarely been a bad dad.

On another note, how awesome is it that this is ALL I have to complain about??  I mean life is awesome in just about every single aspect besides the ex.

I have a charmed life and I love it!

Smooches!  Stay Frosty luvs!!