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I know I've done the fiery letter before but considering the choices I was given for K and the one I chose, I think the fire kinda fits...
So I thought about it and I chose Kinky stuff I'd like to do... Or rather just kinky stuff.
So about a month ago I had a friend over my house and while sitting in my bedroom, he held up the handcuffs that are hanging on my bedpost and wiggled his eyebrows. I had the good graces to look guilty... I think...
I'm not really guilty but being caught with handcuffs kinda sends a message that one is into some kinky shit. I mean if I walked into someone's house/ room and they had a leather swing hanging from the ceiling, whips adorning the wall, Erotic pictures, and red light lamps everywhere I don't know about you but I would assume that the person that lived there just might be a little kinky. Just a little bit.
Me personally, I'll tell you up front, I'm not a little bit kinky. Dammit I'm a lot kinky. That whole fifty shades thing, Half of that, I have done, would do, or wish I could do. PSA: Those balls that Anna had to walk around with... NO. Just no. No.
That's not saying I want to tar whipped out of me while I'm with a man. Spanking, yes, A little harder than most women probably like it (And I cannot speak for most women) yeah. I like to hear the hand hitting the bottom. I like to feel the sting.
You already know I have handcuffs. If I had bed posts and the ability to tie someone up or be tied up (Or a man to do the tying/be tied) would I tie/be tied? Hell to yeah! I personally think that not being able to retreat from the hopefully intense feelings your partner is giving you is awesome. I'm a runner. If I can't run from the feelings, I have to feel them all.
I also like blindfolds... In the area of sex, I am jealous of visually impaired people. To be unable to focus on anything but the bright lights exploding behind your eyes when you jump over that cliff into oblivion.... mmmhmmm.
What else kinky?
I would like to try a swing. I look at the sex swings and thanks to very unfortunate web surfing, I know for a fact that women heavier than me have been in one so I would have no problem being in one. My fears that I would fall out of or off of one have now been assuaged. Whether or not I'm going to be comfortable in one is up the guy in front of the swing... or in back...
The ball gag. I have not tried one and have no desire to do so. Being restrained is one thing, not being about to make a real sound. No. You can keep your ball gag.
Threesomes. Manage a trios. I'm not going to say if I've been in one or if I want to be in one. That's one of those little mysteries that you might work out for yourself. Being with two other people is an intriguing idea. But with that, I don't think I'd recommend any bondage. I also don't think I would recommend the blindfold in this situation.
My mother always told me that a man wants a freak in the bed and a lady in the streets. I'm pretty sure that this ideal has been lost on today's men. Men today want a ride or die chick. She's freak nasty in the bed, on the corner, in the car, on the balcony and the beach and that's a whole new kind of kinky. That's walking kinky.
Public sex is kinky as well. At least in my book. It's kinky and intriguing. I think it's the element of possibly getting caught in the act that heightens the pleasure. The fact that someone could walk around the corner and be shocked by the sight of two bodies grinding together in ecstasy not hearing or seeing the world around them alone is enough to make you want to throw caution to the wind.
What I don't think is kinky, cool, or acceptable, is leaving marks on another's skin. THIS DOES NOT INCLUDE HICKIES. I'm talking about the cuffs or ropes were so tight against the straining skin that there are now black and blue marks. If you were doing asphyxiation during sex and you now have a rope burn around your neck, not cool. Not kinky. Really getting into it and you're smacking my ass is awesome but me waking up with your palm print across my butt cheek, no. Whips can be kinky cool but drawing blood with them... no.
There are a lot of things that fall in the kinky category. A lot of which I haven't covered here. A lot that I don't even know about.
As always, I welcome comments. If you would like tell me your definition of kinky, maybe give some examples?
Ciao!
