So it's raining outside and I am spectacularly annoyed at the moment. NO, I'm not annoyed at the rain... How can you be annoyed at rain? Psht!.
I'm annoyed at the ex's girlfriend's mother and family. They seem to want to see just how black I can really get...
When he first moved in with her and my kids started going up to stay with him (and consequently her), I didn't balk. I grew up and figured sooner or later if he was living with her, my kids would have to spend time around her. True I thought then and to some point still do, think that she's a home wrecking bitch but that's besides the point.
Anyway, my kids came home last Christmas telling me that they had a "new Grandmother". THis annoyed me and it hurt my mother. I mean really hurt her. I exaplined then that their father's girlfriend's mother was not their grandmother and it was very hurtful to their actual grandmothers to say she was their grandmother. Regardless of how other families do it, this woman was not their grandmother.
Aside here for a second. I know several people who have grandmothers who aren't really their grandmothers. To quite truthful, the woman I call my Grandmother was in reality my aunt but that's another story for another day. I also know that sometimes when your parents marry another faily the new parent's parents tend to become people's grandmothers. Thats fine too but they are grandparents to the married in kids because they act like grandparents.
This woman never calls (Although I can't really say that I would allow or disallow this. It's never been tried) She doesn't send them birthday cards she doesn't seem to care about their well being when they are away from her. IMO a real grandmother (step, adopted or blood) at least cares about her grandchildren when they aren't there. When I asked nicely why this woman insists on my children calling her grandma the explanation given to me was she didn't want to confuse the baby. He's freaking one!!! I don't think that as he grows up and sees that his half brothers (I don't actually emphasize the half as much as I am here. He's their brother half or not) and sisters aren't calling his grandmother Grandma, he'll ask and he'll be told and I'm pretty sure he'll be perfectly fine with the answer.
Maybe I'm over reacting. Maybe I'm being a little bit harsh. Whatever, It just seems to me that she wants the title from my kids for stupid reasons and regardless of how the grandmother GOD gave them feels or my wishes, she's going to go ahead and insist on this just to get her way. I think it's sick and wrong and I think the time is fast approaching when I am going to have to go and tell her to her face.
Another aside, the ex's gf's father does not want my kids to call him grandpa. according to my kids he said, "They aren't my grand kids. They can call Mr.(First initial of his name I forgot what it is) but they don't need to call me Grandpa or pop pop."
Now why can't he get his wife to think like that...
